“She was tired. Physically and mentally. She wanted to close her eyes and never open them again... until she remembered: you can never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about”
Since getting a consultant and hiring an adoption agency, we were matched within a week! People have said it would take months but we were matched with a baby girl right away!
Matching is not an impulsive decision but you have very little time to decide, because other hopeful families are waiting, too.
Each family is to create a profile book as a “representation” of what they’re like. We got chosen the first time we were presented to our birth mom! She said that she loved our vibe, she liked that our family is multicultural and especially that Joe was adopted. That sealed the deal for her and we now have some hope restored. It’s been a lot of work but well worth it! Check out just SOME of the documents we have had to get together:
In addition, we have had a lot of post match paperwork and notaries to do.
The important thing to remember about adoption though, is regardless of how promising the situation looks, the outcome could still be a failed match. It’s very scary and I know we will be very anxious during the 72 hour wait for her to sign over her rights, but if she does, our world will be turned upside down for the better! I don’t think a smile could leave my face, even if I tried, and there will be many tears of joy! It will be the most triumphant moment after so much pain & heartache.
Did I fail to mention that she is due in 3 weeks!? Below is our flight info!
She is going to be induced and we will get to be in the hospital room with her! We are going to hire a professional photographer and my mom will be driving down to be a part of the beautiful moment. My overwhelming maternal instincts are already kicking in and oh boy am I nesting!
This girl, Baby Justice Eden, is already more loved than she will ever know! The hardest thing right now is preparing ourselves for whatever the outcome may be. We will have to armor up and prepare for the worst case scenario: leaving without a baby in our arms and a world of disappointment yet again! But we are not going to think that way! All we can do is stay positive and plead for our Justice! Justice Eden Saad.
In two weeks, we are having our baby shower. For me personally, this is the second most important day in my life thus far. First becoming a Saad on my wedding day and secondly finally having the shower I’ve dreamt of. My best friend Shay and her lovely crew are working hard to make it a memorable event and help heal some of my still but steady wounds.
While we are keeping the shower UNISEX, I can’t help but day dream about her specifically. We were donated beautiful clothing from our daughter, Alyssa, and plenty of neighbors. Below being an example, along with strollers, baby carriers, car seats, toys and more.
However, we are still in need of a lot of things on our registry. They’re more “practical” so maybe not as fun as traditional gifts but they’d be greatly appreciated. There’s no need to give us anything but if you’re interested, we are registered at Walmart and Amazon.
Another very exciting thing about this is that my sister in law and brother are expecting a baby just a few weeks later! They’ll be extremely close in age and hopefully best buddies. Baby Justice and Jay Jay ❤️
Please keep us in our prayers! It has been such a hard road! Hard enough that I still feel like a zombie trying to survive an apocalypse and nothing is going to ease my mind except seeing that birth certificate with her beautiful name and her lying in our arms ❤️
And as always, we miss you beautiful Everest. We cannot wait to see your precious face again.
We are now about three years into this infertility madness! As you hopefully read from the previous blog I wrote, we are adopting!
Im just mind blown how much I have learned through this process. I’ve pretty much been through it all at this point:
-ectopic pregnancy ✅
-emergency surgery due to ruptured ectopic ✅
-another ectopic ✅
-IVF=chunk of change(success)
-HELLP syndrome with no choice but to deliver my son at 24 weeks gestation ✅ (which equals preeclamptic complications
-Death of our infant angel ✅
-Got a surrogate who’s embryo transfer failed and cost us another huge chunk of change ✅
-Did another round of IVF personally, but sadly the embryo was not ideal quality = failure to implant ✅
-Now Adoption ✅
It’s been one heeeelllll of a roller coaster; Painful, tiring, stressful, chaotic, expensive and traumatising. Losing our son Everest is still a bone chilling, mind numbing reality in our lives. It is true what Dr Phil says about that kind of loss: “Time does not heal wounds. It’s what you do in that time that heals”.
Well, I’ll be the first to say that going from leaving the hospital without a baby and a post partum body, to post partum depression, to an attempt at surrogacy, and then another attempt at IVF, there is NO manual on how to manage your emotions. It’s not easy and the strength it requires can be exhausting. So, for all the women out there struggling with fertility, which statistically is 1/10 women in the nation, you’re not alone and the chaos, the fears and the unknown is normal!
So now here we are. No more shots. No more meds. No more negotiating with a surrogate and worrying about her wellbeing. No more potentially fatal ectopic pregnancies. We are happy to be navigating new waters... except for the fact that it’s insanely complicated! Just read on:
See that folder above? Well that folder is a joke compared to the 3 inch one we have now! This adoption has cost us more than the worth of both our cars combined! Not to mention our lives have been gone through with a fine toothed comb. There are so many rules, regulations, local laws, national laws, state laws, negotiations, and decisions to make such as: Am I willing to adopt a baby with drug exposure? Am I willing to adopt a special needs child? Am I willing to adopt from a birth mother in prison? Am I willing to have an open adoption? Semi-open? It’s mind boggling! Oh, and try to do all of this while you have a full time job, plus two pre-teens at home & attempting to write a book! (Stay tuned on that)
In addition to all these questions, you are required to submit yourself to an FBI background check, state background check, child abuse and neglect check, finger printing, a home study with a social worker, proof of income... Let’s just put it this way: it was 10x easier and cost effective to buy our house than struggle our way through this new journey of adoption! With all of the misconceptions, rules and birthmothers with preferences, whether under the influence or not, it’s MESSY! Its a roller coaster! One day you get good news, the next day you’re down in the dumps. For me, the scariest part is the silence and the wait. Not hearing anything for more than two days is torture! You go through a lot of emotions but it primarily goes like this:
Not even joking!! Sorry for the long thread of pictures but that is seriously how it feels. We are uneasy, then relieved, then worried, then thrilled! It’s horrifying and exciting at the same time.
So we can’t fill you in on much but we can say this: we officially have a consultant, we are signed and represented by an agency and it LOOKS like we will be adopting from Arizona 👶🏻
We are super excited about our baby shower next month and it’s been a good distraction while we wait! One might ask, “Baby shower? How? You don’t have a baby yet or an idea of the gender”. Well, that’s a reasonable question but why shouldn’t we celebrate? Why shouldn’t we get all the perks as though we were biologically having a child? If anything, we should be celebrating even MORE than a traditional pregnancy because it took such a HUGE toll financially and emotionally to get where we are at! Plus, you could get a “stork drop” or “baby birth” at any moment. What does that mean? You get a call saying, “There’s a baby here at _________ hospital. Check out the profile and decide if you want him/her?” So in any situation, adoptive parents need to be prepared! We want to share our joy with everyone and the baby shower is the perfect occasion!
So, that’s all for now folks! We have a lot of things going on behind the scenes, under wraps, until things finalize. Until then... let the suspense build!
As always, RIP Everest Valor. We miss you every day baby boy. Watch over us and be our guiding light.
It's been a long time and an even harder road! We haven't been ready to update anyone yet because we needed the approval that we are eligible to adopt... AND WE ARE!
This obviously means that our attempt with the surrogacy was not only costly but heartbreaking. It just didn't work out so we decided to simply leave that option behind and move forward with something life changing, blessed and miraculous: ADOPTING A NEWBORN!!!
There are many complexities to adoption and to be honest, at first I wasn't sure how I felt about it. I was worried about boundaries being crossed, legalities not being respected and issues with biological parents overstepping into our world, but I quickly learned that as adoptive parents, you have many rights and much privacy. Your address, place of employment and last name is never even exposed in the contract, so that was very reassuring to know that we could feel confident with raising our child in a safe environment.
We have had to jump through a LOT of hoops like: getting finger printed, background checks, physicals, bank statements, tax returns and even vaccination shots for our dogs! It's very serious and extremely tedious but we passed! It was at this point that we felt comfortable making this exciting announcement! A stork even came 🤣!
Our best friends and God parents to the baby showed up to this photo shoot with props and ACTUALLY DRESSED UP LIKE A STORK! I have to say it was so fun and it gave us the opportunity to celebrate this news in both a unique and unconventional way! 🤣🤣🤣 A lot of times adoption falls between the cracks with the baby showers and announcements but it shouldn't! It's an honor and a long journey to get here!
The process will continue along and take a little time (probably between 2 & 6 months) because we need to make sure that we are compatible with the birth mother and of course there will be more paperwork! But the good news is that the hard part is over and we now get to start feeling excited about our baby-to-be. It could be a boy, and it could be a girl. All we care about is that they're healthy and God appointed! I just can't wait to have a baby shower and finally put our precious nugget in the long standing empty nursery!
We want to thank EVERYONE for your support; for everyone who grieved with us over Everest and donated to the surrogacy, or simply prayed for us. It was the most heinous and painful time of our lives but I think we can finally exhale. We can be a blessing to a birth mother who needs help, who needs an escape, and to a beautiful newborn who will be given more love than a heart can hold!
FUN FACT: Way more celebrities adopt than we realize! Tom Cruise, Hugh Jackman, Meg Ryan, Sandra Bullock, Madonna, Kathryn Heigl etc etc etc
The more adoption, the less foster care!
We will always miss our sweet angel, Everest Valor and we think of him often. Please keep up with our blog and we hope you will support us on this journey!
Wow, everyone! We have been through a lot in the past couple of months. With the Holidays here, we are feeling loss and pain but with our surrogate present, happy and excited! Talk about hopeful and mixed emotions!
As with many medical miracles such as surrogacy, there are unpredictable circumstances and we can't do God's work. We can only have FAITH. He's been working on our hearts while working on Shannon's hormones! But things are finally coming together and a date has been set officially!
Dec. 20th will be our embryo transfer! Our sweet baby will be put in her womb and we can only pray that it will stick!!!
So, once the procedure is done, we will be given results within 10 days. Fortunately we have two embryos but it would be wonderful if the first one sticks! We still don't know whether it will be #teamjustice or #teameden! Either way, a healthy baby for our family will be loved and adored.
We will keep you all posted but in the meantime, please pray for our hearts and spirits. We miss our son and are continually seeking healing. With healing, comes power! We are so ready to hold our baby in our arms and be done with all of the losses!
If you don't know about the loss of our son, Everest Valor, please visit www.storyofeverest.weebly.com or private message me and I'd be happy to share! He was a wonderful and beautiful 1 pound boy full of sweet, innocent joy! He lived for one week and we cherished every second!
Thanks for reading our journey and sending prayers!
RIP our angel in heaven: Everest Valor Saad
"PATIENCE IS THE COMPANION OF WISDOM"
BLOG UPDATE TIME!
So it's been about a month since we got the medical approval, the legal contracts done and the psych evaluations done! Signed, sealed, delivered! ✔️
Shannon has been doing awesome drinking her beet juice, eating pineapple cores and getting her body at its absolute best for the embryo transfer! "Clean eating" (with the occasional slice of pizza of course!)
It has definitely been somewhat hard for Joe and I to patiently wait for this process to happen because we are so excited! It's a bit of a tough season with all the babies at pumpkin patches or in Halloween costumes because it does make us miss Everest Valor so much but we know we will have a sweet little one to dress up next year!
Right now Shannon is being watched closely by doctors to get everything JUST RIGHT from her lining to her bloodwork, which usually takes about 3-4 weeks before take off. That means we will have a turkey baby and probably be doing the embryo transfer (meaning putting our fertilized egg inside of her) right around thanksgiving or slightly after. Gobble gobble!
As for us, we are just staying optimistic, prayerful and preparing emotionally for the excitement of the pregnancy! I personally am getting my heart and mind ready for the ups/downs and thrills of surrogacy. I have some work to do before this special babe comes! #hardworkingirl #godismystrength
On another note, we definitely have our names picked out!!! For the boy it's definitely:
JUSTICE KANE (Kane means warrior)
For the girl:
I believe that these names have a powerful meaning and these young sweethearts will grow up to be life changers, whichever embryo God decides!
We still want to thank all the people who donated so much! We have a long way to go and if you are touched by our story or want to hear about it from the beginning, the link is as follows:
RIP ALWAYS TO OUR SWEET PRINCE IN HEAVEN:
EVEREST VALOR Aug 24-Aug 31 2017
"Go eat your food with gladness and drink your wine with a joyful heart, because God has already approved what you do."
Oh my goodness! What a productive week!
Shannon flew in yesterday and we have been pedal to the metal with appointments! Yesterday she got medically cleared and this morning we spent 3 hours with a trained psychologist to make sure we are all on the same page. Though it was nerve wracking, we passed with flying colors!
Dr Kim said that the embryo transfer will be approximately November 1st, which means we have four weeks to pray diligently for a good outcome!
Fortunately, Dr Kim is very optimistic with the quality of the embryos and Shannon's health!
In the surrogacy world, it's recomended to eat lots of beets and pineapple cores! So Shannon will be loading up on those goodies and we will all be thinking "sticky thoughts".
We are still in need of support for this medical portion and the purchase of the fertility medications, which equates to about $5,000. We now have a way to thank you for being a part of our journey, which is either in the form of a shirt or a bracelet!
For the bracelet, you can donate any amount and we will send one to you within 2 weeks. All you need to do is pick your team: Team Justice (team boy) or Team Eden (team girl)
You can also receive a shirt by making a one time donation of $50 or more!
For any previous donors, please private message me your address and we will be happy to pop a bracelet in the mail. And yes, we do expect selfies!
We are so excited to share the next step with you and stream the video of the embryo transfer Live! Yay baby Saad!
In loving memory of our precious angel in heaven: Everest Valor Saad
"Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."
**Want to donate AND win 7 nights in Costa Rica? Details below!**
SEPTEMBER UPDATE: Thanks to all of the generous people who donated, we were able to hire the lawyers necessary for the legal contract and pay down a portion of medical! That being said, the month of September has been a huge success!
Shannon, our surrogate, will be flying in to Houston in one week! We are very excited to get to know her a little better and get some medical things out of the way because before we know it, she will be back for the embryo transfer! She's equally excited to be our "baby mama" for 9 months! As she would say:
As for October, this is going to be a huge month! We could be potentially getting pregnant this month! There will be an initial appointment with our doctor to set up the "official" timeline of her transfer. The dates are based on lab work and ultrasounds. Shannon will need to start on fertility meds and then return to Texas for the embryo transfer shortly thereafter. We still need to raise money for both of these things: the meds and the embryo transfer procedure. The rest of the medical will be approx: $3,900 and the hormone meds are around $1,000.
I really want to take a moment here to say thank you to all who have contributed so far. Our faith has been very shaken this year and in our despair, you showed us compassion. You showed us kindness. Even on days when I am down and I wake up with a huge, gaping hole where Everest was, I know that I have people who love us and truly want us to get our precious angel baby. Everyone's prayers, support and hope have made a huge impact on my life. We want to thank you for completing us in Gods love.
As for the Costa Rica vacation! With every donation of $25 or more, you will receive a chance to win 7 nights free in Costa Rica. My mom and Chris have been generous enough to donate their vacation rental, which is 3 miles from the national park AND runs for $1,400 per week!
Click the donate button below to join the raffle and unite for the cause! #uniteforbabysaad
Stay tuned for an update on the visit with Shannon!
In loving memory of our prince in heaven, Everest Valor.
This week has been so eventful! For those of you who have been praying for us, God has been answering those prayers! Doors have opened and closed in a clear way that has really defined the path and lead us straight to Schaumburg, Illinois! (Details below)
We still don't know why God took Everest from us so soon but it has been my personal goal to stay faithful in spirit and prayer, without allowing my heart to grow sour or bitter. We know that God wants us to have the desires of our hearts and that He wants us to entrust ourselves in Him, so we are believing in His promises despite how we feel at times.
This scripture is for me and I'm living for it:
So in faithfulness, our prayers went upward and upward, asking God to provide comfort and help. Within a week, I was shocked to see I had several messages from girls offering to be a surrogate! Most of them came from a mommy's group where I had been sharing the story of Everest. That was the first sign that we knew God was involved. All of these were amazing girls and after considering both their health and availability, the right match became obvious. Her name is Shannon, and that is what leads us to Illinois.
Shannon is 32, healthy and has 3 kids of her own already. We are so excited to announce that she is 100% committed to being the best host for our baby that she can be! She had been following our story since the beginning and watching Everest's progress while he was here on earth. It pained her to see our immense sadness and she contacted me in compassion through my mommy's group. She had considered being a surrogate previously and was familiar with the process already. She's a loving, intelligent and resourceful woman who has always had a heart for infertility.
With this detail ironed out and with an embryo awaiting its grand debut, everything else has swiftly fallen into place. The right people with the right qualifications are in the wings and ready to shine. It's all a matter of the funds and the science now. This is where we are trusting in God.
A friend of mine had a beautiful stillborn baby boy and despite her fear, God gave her a baby girl to complete her family. Her loving words to me was that just like her deceased son handpicked their new precious daughter for them, Everest is in heaven handpicking our new baby to send to earth 👶🏻 That is the visual we are praying for and asking for!
We ask for follow up prayers and for donations because this process is costly and must be done right. We have eliminated unecessary expenses to cut the budget, but legally certain things must be done in accordance with the FDA.
Please know that 100% of what we receive will be applied to the costs of this process (lawyers, doctors etc).
We appreciate it more than you can ever know and your generosity is making our misfortune and sadness become a triumph and journey of faith.
We will keep you all in the loop, and follow up with more details soon!
In loving memory of Everest Valor, our angel in heaven
As many of you know, Joe and I have been on quite the fertility journey from 2 ectopic pregnancies, one miscarriage and eventually the $25,000 venture of IVF. We finally got our dream, a beautiful baby boy, though he came to us in the most traumatizing and heartbreaking way.
At about 6 months pregnant, 23 weeks, I developed preeclampsia and was admitted to the hospital. We were concerned but our faith did not waiver. My blood pressure was very elevated and there was protein in my urine, which definitely meant that I needed to stay in the hospital as long as possible to keep both the baby and I safe up to delivery. I was monitored closely and at various times told that I was developing HELLP syndrome, but the perinatologist was able to keep things somewhat under control with medications. I was insistent that I did not want my son born early but the doctors said not at the cost of my life.
***Sidenote: HELLP is unpreventable and still highly misunderstood in the medical world. It is life threatening and can cause many medical complications, such as morbidity, seizures, lung failure, renal failure, reputed liver hematoma, placental abruption and many more.
HELLP only affects 0.2-0.6% of pregnancies!***
After 7 days, the doctor drew labs, which were declining and my blood pressure increased. The doctor said my liver could no longer support the pregnancy and that I was in imminent danger. We had to deliver immediately. I knew something was wrong as well because of the intense pressure between my ribs-apparently an inflamed liver.
They wheeled me into the operating room and it was completely surreal, a combination of feeling elated, terrified and hopeful all at the same time. Joe and I sat together in 'cap and gown' as they began delivering Everest via c-section. I just remember tears streaming down my cheeks with the excitement of meeting him and the horror that he was only 23.6 weeks.
After they closed me up, we went into the recovery area and eventually got to meet him. Everest Valor, our one pound prince, was more beautiful than I could have EVER imagined. He was literally perfect. He had beautiful hands, feet, tiny little head of fine hair and overall innocence that I couldn't really even take in. He was so proportionate and delicate, just like a little doll and so soft to the touch. I was in awe of this little marvel of ours.
Everest Valor Saad
1 lb, 10 inches
The first few days, we learned later, was what is called the "honeymoon phase" in the NICU. Everest performed relatively well, with decent oxygen levels and blood pressure. He was wrapped up in tons of tubes and lines with fluids and medications but he was "stable".
After that, it was a steady decline. His oxygen, his blood pressure, his levels... he just wasn't maintaining and we started getting "the talks" letting us know statistics, possibilities and potential of death.
All the while, we were believing. Don't get me wrong, I was breaking down in tears and overwhelmed with emotion but my faith never waivered that God was going to heal my baby! He was going to show us His power by performing this miracle and I had no doubt though I was afraid. The days went by and he continued to go downhill. We were getting anxious but still had faith in His irrefutable ability to heal Everest and give us the desires of our heart.
By day 7, he no longer had a readable blood pressure. We happened to be in the NICU and the neonatologists informed us very lovingly but urgently that it was time. Everest could not fight any longer.
The pain and devastation was overwhelming like a bulldozer ran right through that NICU. We could not believe it and initially asked for chest compressions or more medications but alarms started to sound on his machines and everyone looked frantic. They said he could not recover and we needed to hold him NOW.
We sat down together beside his incubator with nurses urgently grabbing at all of his tubes and lines, handing him to me with the most saddened faces and tears. They seemed to feel as much empathy and compassion as people who had personally experienced this loss.
Both his eyes were tired but open and he looked up at us so sweetly. We kissed him and told him to go be with Jesus, and that we love him so much. We told him he was so very special and strong, and we thanked him for fighting. We asked him to visit us and to be the one to greet us in heaven. His eyes gently closed, the doctor confirmed time of death and we just sat there hollow, burdened with pain because even up until this moment, we believed God would resurrect him. Why wouldn't He? We prayed day and night, and we were faithful.
After awhile, they brought Everest to us in our hospital room. We were able to spend several hours with him, holding him and kissing him. These were the most adorning, precious and also traumatizing hours of my life. It was such a shock holding our beautiful son with such pride and anguish at the same time. I still can't fathom how or why any of this came to be.
Eventually they took him away and we were left with nothing but a box of keepsakes from his short time here on earth; a hat, his gown, his footprints, some balloons... As women were being wheeled into the hospital and out with their newborns, all I could do was cry in hysterics, feeling like such a huge part of me was missing. My body having been butchered, my breasts running with milk and my heart broken I could not and still cannot fully understand what the purpose of all of this was or how our sweet angel could not be with us any longer.
We have prayed much over this and we are choosing to believe that there was a reason and a purpose for all of this. We believe God is in control and Everest's life held more meaning than we can even know. I know that I was chosen to be his mommy. I can definitely say that his name and his sentiment brought so many people together in prayer and definitely strengthened our faith as well because we have to believe through this crisis that God is good! We have to believe that the bigger picture is what it's all about.
God has already put things in motion for surrogacy in the future and we have been praying for both the connection and the signs. God has already divinely given us a surrogate and this is one of the most complicated pieces! She is a young, healthy woman who has been following our story since the beginning. Please pray that God puts His hand of favor over us as we continue.
God has equipped us now and as we mourn we look to the future with the belief that God will use my remaining frozen embryos to bring us the child we have dreamt of. Everest is rejoicing in heaven as he watches us walk in faith with our new reality now. I know he is with us in spirit and I know he wants us to be happy.
Below is a button that says "donate" for the Gofund me that was set up to help us in our journey to have our miracle baby. If you feel compelled to give, please click the link below. We will treasure and appreciate this blessing more than you know!!
Thank you for all of your prayers and please continue to be with us as we grieve for our Everest.
"Whoever is trying to bring you down is already below you"
It has been awhile since I posted and much has happened lately to inspire a new topic that is not only prevalent to blended families but also stay at home parents.
Ive noticed in society, and among social media, there is a lot of taboo on being a "stay at home" parent or a "step parent"... which is just as much ignorant as it is blind. Even in my current loving relationship, there has been an absolute shift in power since becoming a stay at home mom, and also "labels" from others as far as raising my three "step" children.
For those parents who are being labeled for staying home, I feel an undeniable urge to remind our people how important and priceless our role is! Not only are we the most highly influential people in our children's lives, but we have sacrificed a lot of our own wants and needs to "stay home".
I dont know how some people could think any adult would want to stay home all day long, only to be cleaning up messes, breaking up fights, cooking meals that are largely choked down and fantasizing about having conversation with another grown up. It's not necessarily always the easiest job, and it's vastly under appreciated.
Not to mention the actual financial value to an individual who stays home. I mean, let's crunch the numbers!
So, even if as a parent you are only doing half of these items, your spouse or partner should consider themselves lucky! Your job is so crucial to the development of your kids, the consistency in your home and most of all, a gift to those around you. It's hard work and society needs to catch up on this concept! It's ignorant to consider this sacrifice anything less than selfless.
Secondly, there has been so much negativity cycling around about "step" parents. As in, criticizing the role, putting down the individuals value and making that person potentially feel subject to replacement. Even for me personally, I have had so many people look down their noses at the investment I've made, either calling me "crazy" or "warning" me about potential risks. Even in my own home, there have had to be reminders that I chose to step up and step in, when I didn't have to. I believe that certain people reading this blog need encouragement today!
You should know that your courage to become a step parent is valient. It is not a roller coaster ride that most people can handle. Why? Because it's hard!
Furthermore, even though you may never get credit from the biological parent, you're still going strong! I'm here to say, keep on keeping on! You will never get the accolades you deserve and it's especially hard being compared, but you are amazing and people see it! Don't give up!
Finally, your kids will know it one day. They're not your "step" kids in Gods eyes. Family is not defined by DNA but by love. It is human nature to look back on and trust in the people who were there for us, not just "related" to us.
So to all of my "stay at home" parents and "step parents", you just hold your head high! You are taking on the impossible and doing it by choice! If that is not strength and courage then I don't know what is! Don't let anyone take your crown, parents! You have worked hard to earn it and strive hard to keep it!
With the divorce rate at 50%, that means many blended marriages and "step" children to follow..Someone needs to voice this! It's tough! Nitty gritty! Hardcore and without exception of blame! This blog is to not just inform but solidify how difficult, awkward and how severe the power struggle can be as a "step-parent"