It's been a long time and an even harder road! We haven't been ready to update anyone yet because we needed the approval that we are eligible to adopt... AND WE ARE!
This obviously means that our attempt with the surrogacy was not only costly but heartbreaking. It just didn't work out so we decided to simply leave that option behind and move forward with something life changing, blessed and miraculous: ADOPTING A NEWBORN!!!
There are many complexities to adoption and to be honest, at first I wasn't sure how I felt about it. I was worried about boundaries being crossed, legalities not being respected and issues with biological parents overstepping into our world, but I quickly learned that as adoptive parents, you have many rights and much privacy. Your address, place of employment and last name is never even exposed in the contract, so that was very reassuring to know that we could feel confident with raising our child in a safe environment.
We have had to jump through a LOT of hoops like: getting finger printed, background checks, physicals, bank statements, tax returns and even vaccination shots for our dogs! It's very serious and extremely tedious but we passed! It was at this point that we felt comfortable making this exciting announcement! A stork even came 🤣!
Our best friends and God parents to the baby showed up to this photo shoot with props and ACTUALLY DRESSED UP LIKE A STORK! I have to say it was so fun and it gave us the opportunity to celebrate this news in both a unique and unconventional way! 🤣🤣🤣 A lot of times adoption falls between the cracks with the baby showers and announcements but it shouldn't! It's an honor and a long journey to get here!
The process will continue along and take a little time (probably between 2 & 6 months) because we need to make sure that we are compatible with the birth mother and of course there will be more paperwork! But the good news is that the hard part is over and we now get to start feeling excited about our baby-to-be. It could be a boy, and it could be a girl. All we care about is that they're healthy and God appointed! I just can't wait to have a baby shower and finally put our precious nugget in the long standing empty nursery!
We want to thank EVERYONE for your support; for everyone who grieved with us over Everest and donated to the surrogacy, or simply prayed for us. It was the most heinous and painful time of our lives but I think we can finally exhale. We can be a blessing to a birth mother who needs help, who needs an escape, and to a beautiful newborn who will be given more love than a heart can hold!
FUN FACT: Way more celebrities adopt than we realize! Tom Cruise, Hugh Jackman, Meg Ryan, Sandra Bullock, Madonna, Kathryn Heigl etc etc etc
The more adoption, the less foster care!
We will always miss our sweet angel, Everest Valor and we think of him often. Please keep up with our blog and we hope you will support us on this journey!
With the divorce rate at 50%, that means many blended marriages and "step" children to follow..Someone needs to voice this! It's tough! Nitty gritty! Hardcore and without exception of blame! This blog is to not just inform but solidify how difficult, awkward and how severe the power struggle can be as a "step-parent"