Today was totally an unknown for me. I felt like a fish out of water but surprisingly, totally at peace.
Last night on February 10th, my grand daughter was born. Some of you are probably thinking, "Wait, what? Aren't you in your 20's?". Well, yes. But my husband is in his 40's and this is his daughter. Regardless of age, I'm embracing this opportunity and I already feel like I'm going to be important to this little girl.
For example: When I first met Addi, my 10 year old daughter, she was 3. I never knew the impact I would have on her or how strong our relationship would become. But now I can't imagine life without her and I feel like God pre-destined us to be together. I feel something special like this with my new grand daughter.
People say blood is thicker than water. I don't believe that. Alyssa and her dad, my husband, are not biologically related and yet every single time there is something going on in her life, she calls. She wants him, needs him and hopes for him to be there when she falls or when something unfortunate happens and like a good soldier, he is there.
My family is made up of so many blended components and I have learned one thing: it's about the people who invest in you and accept you, not those who are biologically related to you.
I recently had an issue with someone who is 100% biologically related to me and it was a very unfortunate incident. However, it did humble me. It reminded me that family is what you make of it and who believes in you-not the blood running through your veins. The fact is that this person and I have nothing in common and frankly, forcing a relationship isn't healthy for either one of us.
So I hope that my instinct is right on this and the point of this blog is to say to all the step parents out there: don't undermine your worth or lose heart because redemption may be closer than you think! You may be more impacting and special than you even realize. Your touch and your heart may be exactly what the world needs at this time, though you may not see it!
I hope this baby and I will be close, and that my step daughter can trust me to be kind and honorable and that my obvious love will exceed all barriers. Love is not blood deep!
As I continue on my IVF journey (which btw, is going amazingly and on Monday I start a new string of medications whilst my embryos have become blastocysts and are being incubated), I hope to spend as much time showing love to my new baby girl and step daughter. I think it will be a time to bond and learn one another, as she will be transforming throughout this journey.
Wish me well, as my new injections begin and my ultrasounds/bloodwork continue! All we are waiting for now is my uterine lining to thicken and for my progesterone to reach a certain level. Then...
With the divorce rate at 50%, that means many blended marriages and "step" children to follow..Someone needs to voice this! It's tough! Nitty gritty! Hardcore and without exception of blame! This blog is to not just inform but solidify how difficult, awkward and how severe the power struggle can be as a "step-parent"