“She was tired. Physically and mentally. She wanted to close her eyes and never open them again... until she remembered: you can never give up on something that you can’t go a day without thinking about”
Since getting a consultant and hiring an adoption agency, we were matched within a week! People have said it would take months but we were matched with a baby girl right away!
Matching is not an impulsive decision but you have very little time to decide, because other hopeful families are waiting, too.
Each family is to create a profile book as a “representation” of what they’re like. We got chosen the first time we were presented to our birth mom! She said that she loved our vibe, she liked that our family is multicultural and especially that Joe was adopted. That sealed the deal for her and we now have some hope restored. It’s been a lot of work but well worth it! Check out just SOME of the documents we have had to get together:
In addition, we have had a lot of post match paperwork and notaries to do.
The important thing to remember about adoption though, is regardless of how promising the situation looks, the outcome could still be a failed match. It’s very scary and I know we will be very anxious during the 72 hour wait for her to sign over her rights, but if she does, our world will be turned upside down for the better! I don’t think a smile could leave my face, even if I tried, and there will be many tears of joy! It will be the most triumphant moment after so much pain & heartache.
Did I fail to mention that she is due in 3 weeks!? Below is our flight info!
She is going to be induced and we will get to be in the hospital room with her! We are going to hire a professional photographer and my mom will be driving down to be a part of the beautiful moment. My overwhelming maternal instincts are already kicking in and oh boy am I nesting!
This girl, Baby Justice Eden, is already more loved than she will ever know! The hardest thing right now is preparing ourselves for whatever the outcome may be. We will have to armor up and prepare for the worst case scenario: leaving without a baby in our arms and a world of disappointment yet again! But we are not going to think that way! All we can do is stay positive and plead for our Justice! Justice Eden Saad.
In two weeks, we are having our baby shower. For me personally, this is the second most important day in my life thus far. First becoming a Saad on my wedding day and secondly finally having the shower I’ve dreamt of. My best friend Shay and her lovely crew are working hard to make it a memorable event and help heal some of my still but steady wounds.
While we are keeping the shower UNISEX, I can’t help but day dream about her specifically. We were donated beautiful clothing from our daughter, Alyssa, and plenty of neighbors. Below being an example, along with strollers, baby carriers, car seats, toys and more.
However, we are still in need of a lot of things on our registry. They’re more “practical” so maybe not as fun as traditional gifts but they’d be greatly appreciated. There’s no need to give us anything but if you’re interested, we are registered at Walmart and Amazon.
Another very exciting thing about this is that my sister in law and brother are expecting a baby just a few weeks later! They’ll be extremely close in age and hopefully best buddies. Baby Justice and Jay Jay ❤️
Please keep us in our prayers! It has been such a hard road! Hard enough that I still feel like a zombie trying to survive an apocalypse and nothing is going to ease my mind except seeing that birth certificate with her beautiful name and her lying in our arms ❤️
And as always, we miss you beautiful Everest. We cannot wait to see your precious face again.
With the divorce rate at 50%, that means many blended marriages and "step" children to follow..Someone needs to voice this! It's tough! Nitty gritty! Hardcore and without exception of blame! This blog is to not just inform but solidify how difficult, awkward and how severe the power struggle can be as a "step-parent"